To all those friends and family gathered here on the day of my death, let us celebrate life. (Isn't is just like me, Madame Chairman, orchestrating to the end?!) It has been a happy life. I have no regrets except to have known my grandchildren, but apparently that was not meant to be. I am the product of a loving family: a special mother who adored me and whom I adored; and outstanding brother who has always taken care of me in good times and in bad. Similarly I was fortunate to have married a wonderful man and to have had two fantastic children, Courtney and Matthew. My hope was to have had a quote "normal" life - marriage, children, good friends, and a job I enjoy - and that's what I've had. It has not been an unusual life or an exciting one, but it has suited me. I died a happy woman, surrounded by people I loved and people who loved me. Do not grieve for me today, but rather celebrate our relationship. I am grateful that our paths have crossed and thank you for your friendship. My life has been richer for having known you, and I hope yours in turn has been richer for having known me.
The tender, loving care I have experienced during my life and during my illness has been phenomenal.
I am so thankful to all those of you who have shown me so much concern and affection. I wish to especially thank my terrific support system, consisting of a marvelous family of relatives and friends, who have sustained me throughout tough times and have enriched my life so much: Charlie and Fern; Duncan; Courtney; Matthew; Frances and Wilfred; Sally; Judy; Fran; Lorraine; Julie; and so many more. You know who you are. I have had excellent medical care as well, Dr. Zito has been available to me 24 hours a day from the start, which has been a tremendous comfort.
My daughter asked me before I died if I had any pearls of wisdom to pass on to her. My answer was simple like me: The Golden Rule, treat other people as you would like them to treat you; and my all-time favorite, "Each to his own said the lady as she kissed the cow!" which always brought a groan from my kids whenever I said it. I always felt an appropriate epitaph on my tombstone would have been - "She did love a cute, dirty joke!"
My purpose in life was to have brought some happiness to those whose lives I have touched. I hope I have brought happiness to yours. My wish is to live on in your hearts and to bring a smile to your lips when you think of me...
Stories from Ivy and her family